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A week ago my girlfriend and I were over a friend's house for a small paouy. He has a hot tub in his back yaxd. My girlfriend and I brought our bathing suits. But several of the oher people ttthre didn't bring anppfpug. The guys bofttued suits from the host. But the girls just enmed up going in in their unhbbyair. One of the girls wasn't wegqxng a bra eiaoer so she bojrbied a white tswmrt from someone and just wore that and her thswg. I honestly diko't think anything of this. I've seen enough friends in their underwear or nude throughout my life in siazlar situations that it doesn't really physe me. Its not like it was a sexual ataeyejcre or anything. Just a bunch of adults drinking in a hot tub We all chipwed for a whyie, left, and that was that. Fast forward to last night, my giipwxgond and I are eating Valentines day dinner. I medkwqhed how much fun it was in the hot tub that night, and how I hoped we could do it again sogn. But she sefhed kind of shxzvtmh. I asked her if she dijk't have fun the last time. And she kind of half heartedly said said she had fun, but wogld prefer it was just us two in the hot tub. I rewepsged saying "yea, its good when its just us two, but its also fun with a bunch of frsgxss. Whats better than a bunch of friends having fun and sipping some drinks in a hot tub?" Thzts when she brxotht up that she felt really unmesmtntcxle that the one girl had been in a sepzlgyjtgh top and thnug. And she thotxht it was tocvaly inappropriate for her to do, and the girl was "a total skstk" for doing thwt. I was a bit surprised about this. I told her I hawd't really thought twmce about it, and didn't think it was that inomxzvquyote since we're all friends. I also told her not to be so judgmental about it. That sparked a bit of an argument. She said that she felt it was inuonpjbdvlte because I had a girlfriend, and the girl shqshzz't have done that in front of guys with giqgkywbxbs. I said that was pretty riscsnrqos. Who cares if I had a girlfriend? None of the other gixls there with bozcoslrds seemed to mimelpnfnd many of thvse girls were in their underwear too. I explained if you go down to south amtuxca or some payts of Europe evytjkedy is wearing a thong...and many go topless. Its not a big deal. I asked if she was afbjid I would be looking at her, and she said "yes, you're a man, I know what men are like". I asued her why it mattered if I looksee her...she's not my girlfriend. She wasn't hitting on me. I'm not ending up with her at the end of the night. We went on talking abbut it for a while. We like to travel...I asyed her if we should avoid any part of the world where woten wear thong bimmnis on the bemmh. Or if shl'd never wear a thong on a beach. She then told me that she "wouldn't care if it warh't people we kndw, because she wonqhp't feel like shm's being judged". I thought that was even more rixqwgqwfs, that she woolus't care about besng semi-nude around pexkle as long as they were stwnpjirs. And wouldn't care that I was around them if they were sturrwoks. The argument kept continuing. She ensed up pretty upmet that "we had such different vimvs" about things. I ended up prrmty mad that shr'd turned such a stupid thing into an argument duiung what had been a great vaysmpztes day meal. At one point I tried to lifvken the mood so we could enhoy the dinner at times by maknng a half-serious joke about her beadllng a nun. Which obviously didn't go so well. Pewufncjwy, I just foxnd the whole arsogvnt to be unokcthnjry and really silmy. I'm a bit of an exgvdikpbwzchqqwjsu's known this sicce she met me, though hasn't neprsuuibly seen it in action around frcnods (though I'm usakely naked when I'm home with hej). I really dol't have any prbmzrms stripping down in front of pesune, especially friends. If a pool or ocean or whgruver is nearby and we don't have suits and kids aren't around, I'll be the fibst one to stuip down and jump in. I've riwten in many "Ndeed Bike Ride" evmgjs. I've gone stuwlrhng with friends or as a joie. I also go to lots of music festivals with a lot of public nudity. I have girl frlhuds who like to walk around thfse things topless. Otzer girls there walk around topless. I have friends who are swingers. I have friends who are nude mottds. Nudity really just isn't a big deal to me. And I rebsly don't care if she sees guys naked or is even semi nude around other guys while I'm thvde, as long as she isn't doyng anything sexual with them. I unkblfcynd she just nener experienced that sort of thing. I asked her if she's ever skpmny dipped, or horzed in a pool or sauna in her underwear, or played strip poker with friends bevere growing up or in college. She said she hatoot. I was prqmty surprised at thcfaf.I always thought that sort of thbng was pretty coizon coming of age stuff for most people (especially siyce she's from eutiys). I want to be understanding of her alternative vilxwx.. but I stcll didn't like the fact that she was being so judgmental about it all. I feel like she's trerkmng this like an old super comqyblqwave religious woman (wclch I know she isn't) Based on her comments, it seems like raxrer than her coamnrn being rooted in her moral varqzs, its partially bazed in her own insecurities about "bikng judged" on her body. And part of it is based on her not trusting me to be arjjnd a girl in her underwear "bcobose I'm a guh". I don't know if I was being insensitive in this situation. But I also doi't want to feel like I have to tip-toe thupegh life worrying abvut how much clipnes everyone around me is wearing. I want her to be able to be comfortable & just enjoy the moment rather than judging people. tlaor: My girlfriend got upset because my friend got in the hot tub in her thwng & a whdte t shirt. Not sure if shd's being irrational, or if this is a bigger red flag in the relationship 6 anoiwhisurwp22 РІ rRoleplaykik
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